You're so kind to everyone else. Let's turn some of that toward you.
Here's something Kristin Neff's research found that I can't stop thinking about: most women are far, far kinder to other people than they are to themselves. We hand out grace by the armful and keep almost none for ourselves. And if you're a woman with ADHD, you probably know that gap intimately — the years of "you're so smart, if only you'd try harder," the running tally of everything you meant to do, the inner voice that never quite lets up.
Fierce Self-Compassion is the book that finally names the missing piece. Self-compassion isn't just the soft, gentle, bubble-bath version we've been sold. There's a fierce side too — the part that sets a boundary, says no more, asks what do I actually need?, and refuses to motivate you through shame.
But here's the thing about a book like this: reading it alone, you nod along, underline a few lines, and life swallows it back up by Tuesday. Practiced together, it sticks. That's what this club is for.
Why a book club, specifically?
Community. Self-criticism thrives in isolation. The moment you hear another woman describe the exact voice in her own head, the shame loosens its grip.
Reading that actually lands. We move through the book slowly and on purpose, in chunks, with discussion that turns ideas into something you'll remember.
Real practice, not just theory. Neff says it plainly: you can't just read about self-compassion, you have to live it. Every session we try a practice together, so the book becomes something you do, not just something you read.
What you'll walk away with
A quieter inner critic — and a kinder, steadier voice to replace it with.
The ability to draw a boundary and mean it — fierce self-compassion in action, without the guilt hangover.
A toolkit of practices you can actually reach for in a hard moment, long after the last session.
A circle of women who get it — including the ADHD piece — so you're not doing any of this alone.
